Feelings are not Facts…

What is the difference between emotions and feelings?

While emotions are associated with bodily reactions that are activated through neurotransmitters and hormones released by the brain, feelings are the conscious experience of emotional reactions.

What is the best definition of fact?

Noun. Something that actually exists; reality; truth: Your fears have no basis in fact. Something known to exist or to have happened: Space travel is now a fact. A truth known by actual experience or observation; something known to be true: Scientists gather facts about plant growth.

What are 27 emotions?

The 27 emotions: admiration, adoration, aesthetic appreciation, amusement, anger, anxiety, awe, awkwardness, boredom, calmness, confusion, craving, disgust, empathic pain, entrancement, excitement, fear, horror, interest, joy, nostalgia, relief, romance, sadness, satisfaction, sexual desire, surprise.

Stress: is a normal reaction to the pressures of everyday life. Worry, fear, anger, sadness and other emotions are also all normal emotional responses. They are all part of life.

Fear: is a natural, powerful, and primitive human emotion. It involves a universal biochemical response as well as a high individual emotional response

For those of us who have suffered a past trauma event that resides in our memory, we need to awaken to the fact that the stress and nightmares & flashbacks we experience; are not ours to process.

We cannot change the past.

We only have power of any kind to deal with life today.

Until we embrace this truth we will continue to suffer the stress and fear of the past with no way to heal it in the present.

Feelings are not facts, but they can feel real, if we allow them to become the problem.

How we feel, is in fact a healthy response to perceived danger, real or imaginary.

It is time we started to trust our instincts and review whether i fact it is feelings that is the problem or what is causing these feelings[reactions].

When we can get to this point, we are almost home; it’s like for along time now we have been travelling down the rabbit hole, not trusting our thoughts and feelings; and in one moment, we see the truth of our error and we arrive at that position when we declare “enough is enough.’’

For me, I was sick and tired of feeling sick and tired. I would look forward to that one hour with my therapist, but then I would have to go back into the real world.

The medication helped for a long while but eventually I got sick of zoning out of not being present. I found myself feeling ok all the time, even in moments when it shouldn't feel ok. Watching or hearing shocking, horrible news, wouldn’t faze me, I was oblivious to it all.

Granted it quietened the voices of my demons but it was an all or nothing deal, that I wanted out of.

I so wanted to sleep deep, peaceful sleep and wake up feeling fresh and alive.

To go through life not wrapped up in cotton wool, to see life for what it was and to grow through all of my experiences.

It was the goal to find a way to let of of all my yesterdays ,right back into my childhood; to be free of them completely; accepting they would be part of my memories, my histories; but no longer wanting them to continue to invade my present.

This led me to search for a spiritual solution. Having studied a variety of religions and spiritual practices, I learned that there was only one spiritual practice that suggested the casting out of demons and claiming a personal miracle of gaining peace of mind.

This solution came out of the pages of the Bible, The Scriptures explained the Who, the What, the How, The Why & most importantly: the Way.

Jesus saith unto him, I am the way, the truth, and the life: no man cometh unto the Father, but by me JOHN 14:6

Unfortunately, so many of us have become disillusioned with the church and religion, it can be very difficult to see the woods [Jesus] for the trees [man-made religion].

But this has to be a personal decision, a personal choice. there’s is no waving of a magic wand and all your troubles go away.

You can stay where you are, in a world of therapy and medication; this is not a judgement against anyone; no-one knows how bad the path we walk is or has been.

This is all about, whether you want to be free of your past completely.

There is a price!

If you are anything like I was, I loved being a victim; there was a great payoff and I could use it like a weapon to push people away.

I liked others being responsible for me.

As mentioned in a previous post, having little to no boundaries was another payoff.

Blaming others when I didn’t get my own way.

I could go on, to be honest if you don’t want the watered down version ask the family that had to live or to be more honest, had to endure my victimhood, before, during and after.

It came to the stage of my life where I needed to be able to feel and express my emotions without second guessing was my response in some way improper.

We are spiritual immortal beings; a soul in this physical body. when we treat our spirit, feed and heal the soul, we are filled with:
self-worth, self acceptance self belief self esteem, joy, hope ,forgiveness, kindness, compassion, forgiveness, gratitude, trust faith and purpose, amongst other values and ideals.

This body, is of this earth, a short life span in the grand scheme of things; controlled by the ego and selfish self centered desire and thinking.

As long as we ignore our soul’s needs we will forever be void of something we know we need but all our best efforts can’t quite come close to solving this riddle.

In spiritual terms we are suffering a hole in our soul, at the very center of every being there is an essence that can not be completed by this world.

This longing causes us to doubt ourselves.

This longing causes us to look for it in the past or the future.

The thinking is, this longing was lost in the past and if we go back we can find it again.

But we cannot change the past, any of it, we need to find a way to give this baggage back to its rightful owner, in a safe and non- intrusive manner.

What we need is within each of us.

It’s an inside job.

There is a terrible fear that if we have to turn to God through The Teachings of Christ, we will lose something valuable. It’s time to look around and see our best efforts without Him are failing us, making us doubt our humanity that at this stage, we decide:

‘I've tried everything else; to remain in control of the process; and my life is not where I would like it to be. I am ok to admit I might have been wrong and be willing and open-minded to the concept of a Spiritual Solution based on The Teachings of Christ’’.

The real questions are :

What have I got to lose?

My Demons; Nightmares and Flashbacks; Self Doubt; Guilt & Shame; Victim & Martyr-hood.

&

What have I got to gain?

That we were each created with a wealth of emotions ; some 27 primary and 34,000 others. We can have these back!

To deny ourselves the right to express our emotions and feeling is to de-humanize ourselves.

When we let go of the past, we free ourselves to live fully in the present.

When we let go of any fear or worry about the future we live fully in the present.

I mentioned in the last blog about the 24 hour plan, that is the true goal for each of us, to live these 24 hours only, striving to be a part of the solution rather than a part of the problem.

Please think about a world that you love in, where you are not broken, you have the ability and acceptance to be up or down and not need to challenge whether you are right or proper. When you retire at night, you don’t need something to make you sleep, you fall into deep nourishing sleep and when you dream, [we all do, and we all have the odd nightmares,] it won’t stay with you all day. On awakening from such a peaceful sleep you will go about your day, living this day only.

The past will be just that. A distant memory, history.

When someone asks you about your past, you will hear yourself responding

‘‘ Yes, what happened to that younger version of me was horrible, but I am eternally gratefully to him for surviving it for me, so that I am free to live my life today. I'll never forget what he suffered and survived for me to be here today. I have the greatest grateful respect for him”

There is no power on this earth that can restore us to sanity, we try everything and anything, from different therapists and different therapies, to different medications; drugs & alcohol; a geographical change; food; shopping, fitness; I could go on, the list is endless..

I reached that point, literally I was burnt out, couldn’t do it anymore. was willing and openminded to trying something new, which turned out to be something old.

The Bible tells us ‘faith without works is dead’.

This is a two part process

the first part is a Faith in The Teachings of Christ Yeshua

And the second is each of us Doing our Own Personal Part of being willing and openminded to giving this burden back to its rightful owner.